- June 21, 2018
You can find great Christian books on just about any topic, from current events to theological analysis. One area that is ripe for Godly wisdom is that of dating and relationships. In the past these books mostly came from the vantage point of a husband and wife, but today’s culture is full of a large number of single adults who are navigating a path that hasn’t existed at such a rate throughout history. Fortunately there are now great Christian relationship books for singles and young adults being written each day. The journey of dating and life as a single adult are both in desperate need of advice and Godly instruction. Here are some of our best bets for Christian relationship books for singles and young adults.
“Single Dating Engaged Married” - Ben Stuart
Many Christian relationship books focus on only one aspect of relationships, but we know that romantic pursuits are a series of fluctuating statuses. Sometimes you are dating, other times you are living as a single person, and then you might meet someone, get engaged, and finally married. It’s important to know what each stage of this looks like and how we can make the most of it. Ben Stuart’s book seeks to inject Christian wisdom into each part of that cycle.
“Boundaries” - Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
The reason why this has become one of the best-selling Christian relationship books is because it is all about how we interact with others, how we show love, and where we draw limits on what we can do. While this isn’t exactly a book about dating, it’s definitely part of growing into a more healthy person who is capable of showing proper affection for a dating partner and being a more rounded individual in all walks of life. There have been a few follow-ups to the book with “Boundaries in Dating” and “Beyond Boundaries” among the list.
“Living Single” - Tony Evans
Perhaps you want to read some of these Christian relationship books, but you don’t have a lot of time for reading. If that’s the case, you might want to read this short book from Tony Evans. “Living Single” is less than 100 pages, so you can knock it out in an afternoon. The book is one rooted in the teaching of 1 Corinthians 7, giving a Biblical account of what marriage and romantic relationships should look like. If you’re looking for personal accounts and “real world” anecdotes, though, this may not be the #1 book on our list for you.
“The 5 Love Languages” - Gary Chapman
Some of the Christian relationship books on our list have been written in the last year or two, but Gary Chapman’s “The 5 Love Languages” is a classic that is still applicable today. That’s because communication is a vital part of all relationships. Using this book you can learn the different ways in which people think and give/receive love. Knowing this will set you up for better relationships and a healthier marriage.
“Lady in Waiting” - Jackie Kendall
A popular theme of books on singleness and dating is that individuals need to work on themselves before they rush to get married to someone. This is important because it helps you to establish a personal relationship with God and allows you to work on your own issues so that they don’t bust out of nowhere later on down the road. This beloved book received an update a few years after its initial launch, so if you’re going to read it, you may want to look for the newer version.
“The Sacred Search” - Gary Thomas - Christian Relationship Books for Singles and Young Adults
In today’s society there is too much emphasis placed in relationships on attraction and being happy. Over time your relationship needs to be built on more than the butterflies you feel in the early stages of a courtship. “The Sacred Search” is about finding a partner who wants similar things as you and will push you closer to a strong relationship with the Lord. You’re not looking for a soulmate, but a spouse you can cling to for the rest of your life.
“The Mingling of Souls” - Matt Chandler
The development of a relationship, and eventually a marriage, is a complicated process that sees two imperfect beings coming together as one. On top of the difficulties inherent in this journey, society has depicted the wrong way to do this through film, TV, music, and more. Matt Chandler uses the Song of Solomon as well as other Biblical support to unpack the ideal Christian romance in order to pave the way forward. “The Mingling of Souls” is a book for both singles and married couples.
“Not Yet Married: The Pursuit of Joy in Singleness and Dating” - Marshall Segal
As you go through life as a single person, it can sometimes feel like everyone is just waiting for you to settle down. Even worse, you may feel incomplete simply because you haven’t married. There are plenty of Christian relationship books trying to help you find the perfect mate, but what about how to enjoy the single lifestyle in a Godly way? “Not Yet Married” is about finding joy and purpose through the single years and keeping that focus on God when you decide to date.
“The Dating Manifesto” - Lisa Anderson
Lisa Anderson is the host of the Boundless show, a program from Focus on the Family aimed at young adults and singles. Her book, “The Dating Manifesto,” isn’t one of those Christian relationship books that depicts a young co-ed running through a field of wheat. Less romantic and more practical, Anderson’s book is a how-to approach for dating in a healthy manner that lines up with who God is calling you to be.
“Swipe Right” - Levi Lusko - Christian Relationship Books for Singles and Young Adults
Levi Lusko’s approach to dating, sex, and romance is one handcrafted for the world in which we currently live. Taking into account the millions of single people out there who are hurting from past mistakes and unhealthy relationships, “Swipe Right” is designed to answer the questions being asked by a generation left confused by traditional dating advice and the messages the world sends.
“Get Lost: Your Guide to Finding True Love” - Dannah Gresh
Some people think they need to hit the gym, drown themselves in makeup, and wear the right kind of clothes in order to find a spouse. While there’s nothing wrong with looking good, beauty is only part of the equation. Dannah Gresh’s “Get Lost” is about working on your spiritual state and devoting yourself to the Lord. Before you can be a Godly wife, you have to pursue God Himself.
These Christian relationship books for singles and young adults are some of the best guides for today’s dating scene. Whether you are actively in a relationship, looking for a partner, or simply living the single life, these books can help you understand your role in the world.
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